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Your Money and Your Financial Purpose


without financial purpose, we will find ourselves on an endless pursuit of more

❝If you don't know where you are going, any road will get you there.❞ -Lewis Carol

I grab a cup of coffee and find a seat. It's 2007 and I'm meeting with a friend, colleague, and mentor. He asks me what I want to do with my career, and I tell him about my career aspirations. This leads to talking about what I want to do outside of work and what kind of life I want.


I'm in the middle of telling him how I want to have an important job title so that I can make a lot of money and have a comfortable lifestyle. In the middle of telling him all this, he interrupts me and simply asks, "Why do you want that?"


I have to admit; I'm kind of offended. What kind of question is this? This is a dumb question. Why wouldn't I want this? This is what everybody wants!


Right?


It wasn't until days later, when I reflected on the question, that I realized I was making many assumptions. I was doing what I thought I was supposed to be doing and choosing a path based on my perception of how other people would view me for picking that path.


MONEY IS HARD


Money is the number one source of stress for people in the United States. It's also a taboo topic, so people don't talk about their financial stress. This causes a lot of frustration and envy because we know exactly what it feels like to feel our financial stress, but it doesn't look like anybody else is experiencing any financial stress because they don't talk about it. Add to this the fact that many people use money (that they often don't have) as a way to status signal and represent that they are, in fact, better off than they are.


Instead of judging ourselves, we can give ourselves a break. Money does not exist in nature. Money is an entirely human-invented concept. If you follow your family tree back far enough, you'll come across people who didn't need to have financial skills because there was no money. In fact, all the things that we call healthy financial habits would have harmed your distant ancestors. So we did not inherit financial skills.


On top of that, money touches every area of our lives. There are very few financial decisions that don't impact your life somehow and very few life decisions that don't have a financial component. With other taboo topics, like politics, religion, sexuality, or health issues, you can generally avoid discussing or signaling these ideas when you are out in public. With money, though, we are sending and receiving messages about money whether we like it or not. We can't escape money.


We have a situation where money skills don't come naturally to us, money touches every area of our lives, and we don't feel like we're allowed to talk about it.


No wonder money is hard.

Money is stressful and it can fell like we are its puppet

MONEY IS A TOOL, NOT A GOAL


Without thinking about money and its role in our lives, or understanding who we are as individuals, it's easy to do what we think we are supposed to do. We receive these messages everywhere, from our family system, schooling, television, and social media. "Success" is defined as having a good job and a nice house while sending your kids to a great school. And these may be fine things for some people, but it's important to know what is important to you and why it's important.


Our default mode is to try to latch on to other people's values. When we see other people seemingly have their stuff together because we know when our stress feels like and it doesn't look like other people have financial stress, then we tend to do what they're doing because we want in on their (supposed) happiness.


All this is to say that without inner exploration, we tend to view money as a goal. We forget that money is worthless by itself. We assign meaning to money that doesn't exist. Money is a tool. It's an important tool. It's a tool we have to know how to use. It's a tool we have to know how to take care of. But it's just a tool. And it's essential to understand what you want to use this tool for.

money is a tool, not a goal

WHAT'S YOUR MONEY FOR?


The first step toward using money as a tool is to understand what your money is for. If you are reading this, you probably don't need more money, at least in the strictest sense of the word "need." You could probably sell everything you have, move to a country with a low cost of living, and survive. But you don't want to just survive in a poor country. You want something more than that. But that thing that you want that's more than that is different for everybody. What is it for you?


This is financial purpose. Financial purpose describes the purpose of your money and can serve as a guide to how you want to use it. You can use your financial purpose as a sort of filter that you run your financial decisions through. The trick is not to deprive yourself. Some things will get through the filter, and that is welcomed. You should use your money in a way that aligns with what's important to you (assuming you can afford it, of course). But your financial purpose also helps you stop using your money in ways that aren't important to you. You can stop using your money in a way that is simply trying to keep up with the Joneses.

financial purpose is a filter for your financial decisions

FINANCIAL PURPOSE STATEMENT


I encourage you to take your financial purpose and craft a short statement, a Financial Purpose Statement. Your Financial Purpose Statement becomes a mantra you can remember and use to remind yourself what your money is for. Additionally, it can remind you what your money is not for.


Your Financial Purpose Statement is not meant to be a deprivation tool. You're not trying to use willpower to prevent yourself from doing something that you otherwise wanted to do. It helps you slow down your thinking process so that you are making decisions on purpose, with purpose.


When your impulse and your actions are too close together, you are reacting. This is the default mode for many people, floating around life from circumstance to circumstance, effectively letting life happen to them. By growing the space between your impulse and action, you are making an intentional decision.

Growing the space between impulse and action creates intention

Once you recognize that money is a tool and not a goal, it opens up a world of possibilities where you get to ask yourself what that tool means to you. It helps you recognize what the money is for. By distilling your financial purpose into a Financial Purpose Statement, you can shift from reactive to intentional decisions.


You get one life; live intentionally.



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Related Money Health® Reading
References and Influences

Barker, Dan: Life Driven Purpose

Burkeman, Oliver: Four Thousand Weeks

Burkeman, Oliver: The Antidote

Dunn, Elizabeth & Michael Norton: Happy Money

Kinder, George & Susan Galvan: Lighting the Torch

Kinder, George & Mary Rowland: Life Planning for You

McKay, Matthew, John Forsyth, and Georg Eifert: Your Life on Purpose

Sinek, Simon: Start With Why

Sinek, Simon, David Mead & Peter Docker: Find Your Why

Vos, Joel: Meaning in Life

Wagner, Richard: Financial Planning 3.0

Wallace, David Foster: This is Water

Whelan, Christine: The Big Picture


Note: Above is a list of references that I intentionally looked at while writing this post. It is not meant to be a definitive list of everything that influenced by thinking and writing. It's very likely that I left something out. If you notice something that you think I left out, please let me know; I will be happy to update the list.


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About the Author

Derek Hagen, CFA, CFP, FBS, CFT-I, CIPM is a speaker, writer, and coach specializing in financial psychology, meaning and valued living, resilience, and mindfulness.

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